Date Advice For Men: The Confidence Factor

You can find a lot of date advice out there. Tips on everything from proper grooming to where you should take your date. All of these are important but as with most things it starts with the internal. In this case that means self confidence.

Women (not all but many) view self confidence as a major attribute in a man. They frequently equate it with success.

It’s important at this point to make a couple of distinctions. Number one self confidence means feeling good about you. You’re comfortable in your own skin and that translates out to the way you relate to others. It does not mean arrogance. Boasting about your accomplishments and the “winning” character traits you possess is a telltale sign you are not comfortable in your own skin.

Number two is the term success. Women don’t necessarily apply that to material things such as a fancy house or a nice shiny car. They’re not blind to it but it’s not an overriding factor. Are you successful in your relationship with your family or in how you keep up your appearance? Those are more important. Can that translate into a successful relationship with her?

While it’s a given, women actually look for successful men because they’re more likely to be satisfied. So you may be wondering what a man being satisfied has to do with anything. Let me explain. You see, women know that men who are satisfied with themselves are less likely to go out looking for someone to satisfy them and are more stable.

And in a relationship that means a man will be less likely to cheat, or change jobs frequently or get himself into any number of other compromising situations. Remember that most women are looking for a man who will be their partner as well as their lover.

Not only do they want a partner when it comes to things like companionship, decision-making and finances, but in the bedroom, as well. In order to effectively seduce a woman you must make her feel as though you’re both equals.

When it comes to confidence, it seems there are two kinds of people – those who have it and others who simply don’t. Although on the surface this may be true, everyone has the potential to be “self confident”, or motivated if you would like to call it.

Take heart in knowing that you’re a good person, smart, funny, good at your job, loving, considerate or whatever else you find to be positive character traits that you have. Be comforted to know that NOT all women are looking for a CEO or brain surgeon. They just want a man who’s confident with who he is, what he knows and what he has to offer to a relationship with them!


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