Don’t Let Your Emotions Dictate Your Life

Have you learned to tell the difference between experiencing your feelings and being led by them?

If we are to become become complete the response must be a confident and unhesitating yes.

We cannot begin to act and think positively until we have learned to experience and deal with our feelings, without being pulled down by them. Most people are led by their “gut instincts” when making decisions.

How people feel about something often dictates whether they do it or not, or enjoy doing it or not. They may even choose not to do something because of how they feel about it.

The issue with this type of reaction is that it is deeply rooted in the emotions and not in logic, although logic and our feelings may lead us to the same conclusion.

This is what is meant by “experiencing your feelings” Have you learned to tell the difference between experiencing your feelings and being led by them.

Experiencing your feelings enables you to consider them but ultimately rise above so you can make a more logical decision regarding whatever action you need to take.

This is particularly important if you have an argument with someone. It is very easy to be led by feelings as the argument becomes more heated. Let’s face it prisons are filled with individuals who let their emotions become the sole and driving force in these situations.

Recognizing and understanding the increased feelings of frustration and anger welling up inside are important steps to calling a time out. That way you can give each other space to think and respond logically rather than emotionally.

Learning to differentiate between our acting on our feelings and understanding how they can help or hinder our actions and our reactions is essential to achieving positive thinking.

Negative feelings can hold us hostage to ourselves and to never achieving anything in our life.

We don’t feel happy or contented with what we have, so we strive for more.

We feel depressed so we isolate ourselves from others or we over eat.We feel angry so we take it out on in our attitudes with our children or our spouse.

As we learn to channel our negative thoughts and feelings into more positive decision-making, we are able to use them to help us choose behaviors but we don’t let them dictate our actions without first challenging them by thinking through alternative options that can affect positively on our lives and the choice we make.




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