Personal Betterment: The Five Questions You Need To Ask
Personal betterment is not something that comes to us out of the clear blue. Somewhere along the way we aspire to do something with our lives that gives it meaning. It’s not just a matter of wanting to be happy. Watching your TV favorite show can accomplish that regardless of how brief.
At it’s core personal betterment is realizing you are not satisfied with the state of your life. It doesn’t necessarily mean you are miserable but that you are capable of so much more.
Make the most of yourself….for that is all there is of you.
― Ralph Waldo Emerson
1. What do you really want?
It’s surprising how many people don’t ask themselves this question and then become depressed when they don’t feel themselves getting anywhere. It’s almost impossible to get what you want if you don’t have the slightest clue as to what exactly do you want.
2. Do I really want to change?
Making New Year’s resolutions and then breaking them is so common that in many ways it’s a running joke. You vow to quit smoking or to lose weight get all geared up to do so. Maybe you even written out a plan for accomplishing it.
But by the end of February (if that) the plan just like every other year is somewhere collecting dust. You forget about it until December 31st when you vow to accomplish that goal all over again.
People use a wide variety of excuses to justify not fulfilling what they set out to do. They blame it on the job, kids, spouse or whatever. The reality a lot of people are just paying themselves lip service.
Changing for the better means not letting anything stand in your way. By doing so you’re not stuck with a drawer full of broken promises you made to yourself.
3. What’s Your Why?
Okay you know what you want and you really do want to change in order to reach it. So the next question to ask yourself is why do you want to achieve it?
Your why has to be strong. For instance if you say you want to quit smoking because your spouse is bugging you that is really not going to cut it. It has to be something inside of you that wants it. You want to live a healthier life or the thought of getting cancer scares you.
That why is going to keep you motivated through all of the peaks and valleys in your journey to personal betterment.
4. Who can help me?
Personal betterment does not have to be some lonely road we find ourselves on. There are people who not only can help but want to. They’ve been there done that. Or maybe they haven’t but want to partner up with someone that can keep them motivated. By helping you they help themselves and vice versa. Never be afraid to ask for help.
5. What are you thankful for?
Ever heard the old saying “have an attitude of gratitude.” Personal betterment doesn’t mean you want to get better because your life has been one continuous train wreck. Even if it was there is something you should be thankful for…you lived through the train wreck!
You can be thankful for great kids, that you still have your health, you live near a beautiful lake or you can be thankful because you do want to get better.
Don’t be afraid to look around and appreciate where you are before making the decision to go forward.